Random Thoughts Deriving From The Phrase 贫贱夫妻百事哀

Was watching a drama on TV yesterday. It showed this husband and wife quarelling over money matters & my elder sis commented 贫贱夫妻百事哀.

Do you agree with this? Discussed with Ruby. She agrees to a certain extend. 有钱有有钱的吵, 没钱有没钱的吵. I agreed. Both of us also fully agree that the basis of a relationship is love. Without love, you will quarrel over anything and everything, and will not put in effort to resolve the problems. That's why our marriage vows says "for good or for bad, for better or for worst". Looking at our divorce rates, obviously its easier said than done.

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One of my guy who help me distribute flyers sms me today. He asked if i have jobs for him cos he needs the money. This guy is a 42years old English-speaking guy who was recently retrenched. I remembered the first time i met him to distribute my flyers. We met at the end of the day to pass him the remaining payment of $30. I gave him a $50 note. However he does not have small change and thus i told him i will transfer the money to his bank account. He paused and told me there is an ATM round the corner and asked if i can transfer the money to him now cos he is really broke and needs the money to buy stuff later.

I felt sad. He is a 42year old man. To say that he needs the $30, it must have taken him lots of courage. Anyway after i told him i do not have jobs for him today, he asked if he can borrow $100 from me cos he needs to pay his son's tuition fees. I rejected him (cos its my policy not to lend money to people unless its my family or close friends). Anyway what strikes me hard is the situation he is in. It serves as a reminder to me that i must not be in that situation, especially now that i have a kid. I remembered someone ever told me: Adults can go hungry but baby cannot. When i am earning money, i must save hard and not splurge. Also never over commit. Cos if you over commit, you have to keep earning that much to sustain that lifestyle. When you have a car, you want a BMW. When you own a HDB flat, you want a condo. The list goes on...

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"Money is the root of all evil"

"If money can solve the problem, it is not a problem"

"钱不是万能的; 但没有钱却是万万不能的"

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Suddenly remembered a song:

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, "What will I be?
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

When I was young, I fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead
Will we have rainbows, day after day
Here's what my sweetheart said.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

Now I have children of my own
They ask their mother, what will I be
Will I be handsome, will I be rich
I tell them tenderly.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.