I was having a conversation with one of my bak bak sister on the topic of handphone last weekend. She was complaining to me how another of our bah bah sister complained that she dun pickup her handphone. Both of us were discussing the importance of handphone in our lives, and how our partners & friends become paranoid once they can't reach us on our mobile ...
I was reading the papers this morning about Singaporeans being ranked one of the last when it comes to the frequency of having sex, and the amount of time spent on making love. The article states that Singaporeans are behaving like "civil servant" when it comes to sex, as described by radio DJ Anna Lim. Many Singaporeans, she said, treated sex like "chores" that they performed "routinely"...
I have been thinking a lot about life in the city recently. The older i get, the more i dislike city life. People in this city are spending way too much time on work, and more & more is being focused on material life. A typical day in this city starts even before daybreaks, when people set off to work. Workday ends when the day darkens, when people rushed home to have dinner, watch tv for 2 hours and go to sleep. This is so city like, so Singapore, and how i so hate it! We are spending more time with our colleagues than with our spouse. It is no wonder why there are so many cases of married husband / wife having affairs with their colleagues. Having said that, i also understand that this is juz how our fast paced society works. Sometimes it is juz beyond our control when we have so much work to finish within a short frame of time. If we are not competant, we will be out. That's juz so pathetic.
I am a real estate agent, and the longer i am in this line, the more I feel I cannot gel in this industry. Too much focus is placed on dollars & cents. Not that this is wrong, but its juz not me. I am one who earns enough to keep me going, leaves my phone at home when i am on holiday, off my phone when i am sleeping, and hates it when customers or cobroke agents call me in the late evenings when its supposed to be my private time. I truely understand that this is the nature of the business, but its juz not me to be on standby 24/7. I am not joking when i tell you i can walk away from a deal when it infringes into my private time. I guess I am juz not a business person.
Which is why i told myself i must not commit myself to a high expenses life. Many of my friends told me they have "no choice" & have to slought like hell everyday, cos there are bills to pay at the end of every month. Life is a vicious chain cycle -- when we earn more, we start to buy branded goods, upgrade from our hdb flat to condo, change our car from a Toyota to BMW etc. We start to give ourselves reasons why we NEED that Gucci bag to attend parties, why we NEED to stay in a condo cos it provides a more condusive environment for our children, and how that BMW is a NEED because we NEED the social status when we meet clients. At the end of day, the so call "NEED" becomes a MUST for us to spend more time in our work because we NEED the money to pay for our Gucci bag, condo & BMW. And the cycle goes on...
Oh gosh, the more i write about life in this city, the more i yearn for an out. I am slowing down my work now before i give birth in Auguest. This time that I have now gives me an opportunity to think about what i want in life. Afterall I am coming to 31 now & have been working for more than 10years! I think I will want a change after i give birth, but i am not totally clear about my direction yet. One thing for sure, i want to strike a balance between work and life so as to lead a more fulfilling life. I sincerely hope that my husband, family & close friends can join me in leading this fulfilling life admist this busy city cos i know my life would not be complete without them! Gambatte!!!
